From The Times newspaper today (page 14-15 of the print edition)…
“When Kate and Dan Green were told they would find it difficult to conceive naturally, they decided to adopt (writes Ruth Maclean). But like many prospective parents approaching their local council, they were scared off by Surrey at the first hurdle.
“We did ring the local authority, but we were put off with the initial phone call,” Mrs Green said.
“There was a mention of CRB checks straight away, before anything else — it just didn’t feel right. They didn’t make us feel particularly comfortable.”
Mr and Mrs Green were unusual in that they wanted to adopt a child with special needs. “We just felt we had the patience and time to give a child with special needs, and they’re so difficult to find homes for.”
Giving up on the local authority they went to Tact, Britain’s largest fostering and adoption charity. They were given a social worker and their application was put before a panel to decide if they were fit to adopt.
The Greens were approved and met Harrizon, a 15-month-old with foetal alcohol syndrome who is now four and idolises his big sister, Molly. But there was a long way to go before he could become part of the family.
“The most stressful part is having met Harrizon and got to know him, they might turn around and say, ‘You’re not right for each other — you need to find a different child’. They can still say no.”
The whole process took two years — the final adoption order took almost a year to come through. “It’s a huge upheaval. I’m not sure if I would do it again.”